As A Counsellor, I Am Fortunate (?) To Experience A Varied Gamut Of Human Relationships Through The Cases That Come To Me For Therapy.one Such Case Was That Of A Young Adolescent Boy, Who Was Referred To Me For Academics, As Well As Behavioural Issues. On Meeting The Boy, He Seemed Compliant Enough For The Questions And Answered Them Willingly, But I Could Sense Intense Rage Within Him. On Probing, I Found That His Primary Anger Was Directed Against His Mother. Reason? She Insults Him In Front Of His Uncle And The Servant! The Mother Looked Surprised That This Was A Topic Of Dissent With The Boy. Her Logic Was That If He Is Scolded In Front Of Someone Else, Then He Would Learn To Behave Better. When I Asked Her What Her Expectations Were She Had Only One Thing To Say: I Want Him To Respect Elders.i Found Her Need To Be Very Amusing… Considering She Was Using Humiliation As A Tool To Discipline Her Son.everybody Has This Need In Them To Be Respected, Whether Young Or Old. How Could The Mother Expect The Child To Develop A Sense Of Respect And Reverence, When Everytime She Would Deride And Belittle Him Not Only In The Privacy Of Their Home But Also In Public? It Is, According To Me, The Lowest Form Of Disciplining Tactics, Which Would Have The Person At The Receiving End Seething Inside With Humiliation. I Remember, When I Was Working In A Publication Firm, We Would Have This Monthly Meetings, Which Were Called “hall Of Shame”. The Names Of All Those Editors Who Had Not Met Their Targets Would Be Written On The Board, And They Would Be Asked For Detailed Feedbacks And Explanations. This Could Also Be Done In The Cabins Of The Senior Professionals, But I Think They All Got A Perverse Pleasure, Seeing Them Squirm In Front Of An Audience. What Irreparable Damage Was Being Done To The Psyche Of The Person, I Dread To Think. A Personal Memo Calling The Person Filthy Names Is So Much Better Than This Public Flogging. Coming Back To The Case, When I Started Handling The Issues With The Mother, I Could Understand Where She Was Coming From. She Was A Perfectionist, And Theirs Was The Most Passive Marriage I Have Ever Seen! When Asked If She Expected Others To Respect Her As A Person And Her Opinions, She Wanted To Know What I Was Talking About! For The Husband, She Was Just A Wife; One Who Took Care Of His Physical And Biological Needs. He Could Not Describe The Person That She Was: Her Identity Was That She Was His Wife. She Was Labelled A Bad Mother Because Her Son Did Not Behave ‘properly’. So To Get Social Approval She Was Being Punitive With The Son. Her Life Revolved On Social Approvals. She Could No Longer Establish Her Own Identity, And Establishing The Importance Of Being Herself Became The Focus Of Counselling. She Was Gradually Able To Understand That You Do Not Demand Respect; You Command It. And You Can Only Teach How To Respect If You Practise It. The Point Took A While To Sink In; But When She Was Able To Withdraw From The Controlling Relationship, And Also Refused To Take Responsibility For Her Son’s Misbehaviour, And Refuse To Accept The Label Of Being A ‘bad Mother’ Simply Because He Misbehaved, Things Started Turning Around. When People Around Realised That She Was Not Accepting The Blame For His Behaviour, They Started Handling The Boy Differently; And He Too, In Subsequent Sessions Was Able To Understand The Scenario. Sessions Are Still On; The Husband Continues To Be Passive, Though He Is Beginning To Think There Is More To A Marriage Than Just Staying Together, And Is Slowly Willing To Enrich The Relationship.it Is Not ‘all Is Well’ As Yet…. But I Hope It Would Be.mohana Narayanan

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The Medical Care Of The Child During Its First Two Years Of Life Not Merely Requires Of The Physical, But Also Of The Mental Health And Development. This Begins, Not At The Time Of Birth But In Utero. It Is Essential To Guard The Health Of The Mother During Pregnancy, Her Mental And Physical If The Best Possible Child Is To Be Born. There Are Various Disabilities From Which The Mother May Suffer Which Have An Adverse Effect On The Unborn Infant. Some Are Conditions Peculiar To Pregnancy: Others Are Ailments Which Attack Indiscriminately The Pregnant And Non-pregnant. Let Us Take First A Few Of The Conditions Peculiar To Pregnancy. On The Physical Side We Have Excessive Vomiting, Albuminaria, Constipation With Toxic Absorption, Or Diarrhoea. On The Mental Side There Are Such Things As Undue Depression, Morbid Fears, Sleeplessness, And The Effects Of Frights. In This Sphere Homoeopathy Has Much To Offer In Advance Of Ordinary Medicine. For Example: Excessive Vomiting Of Pregnancy, If Allowed To Continue, Will Lead To The Death Of The Foetus, Either Naturally, Or Artificially Induced To Save The Life Of The Mother. In A Very Large Percentage Of Cases, When The Vomiting Of Pregnancy Starts, A Few Homoeopathic Doses Of Ipecacuanha Will Completely Control It. The Danger Is Prevented And Does Not Need To Be Met. In Those Unfortunate Cases In Which The Condition Has Not Been Homoeopathically Treated From The Start, The Response To The Homoeopathic Drug Is Startling, Though The Choice Of The Drug Is More Difficult And Is Dictated By The Symptoms Of The Individual Case. Albuminuria Of Pregnancy Is One Of The Terrors Of The Obstetrician. It Is One Of The Great Danger Signals, One Of The Signs That The Strain Is Telling On The Mother, And Through Her On The Child. It Is The Precursor Of Convulsions With All Their Horrors And Anxieties. Small Pills Of Homoeopathy Remedies Like Apis, Plumbum, Acidum Phosphoricum Or Terebinthina Remove The Albumin From The Urine And Make The Case Settle In No Times. Constipation In Pregnancy Is A Common Trouble. Where It Exists Toxic Absorption Is Bound To Follow, And While It Persists The Patient Is In Danger Of The Severer Complications Due To Infection By The Bacillus Coli. In The Great Majority Of Cases A Few Doses Of Nux Vomica, Opium, Or Alumina Will Put Matters Right, Provided The Mother's Diet Is Rational. Diarrhoea In Pregnancy Is Always A Serious Matter, And If Not Speedily Relieved May Lead To Miscarriage. The Gentle Action Of A Small Dose Of Aloe, Podophyllum Or Mercurius Can Give An Instantaneous Relief. Rubella, Or German Measles If Acquired During Pregnancy, Especially During The First Four Months, May Have An Adverse Effect On The Unborn Child. In The Event Of Exposure To Infection During Pregnancy It Would Be Wise To Prescribe The Rubella Nosode. On The Mental Side The Effects Of Morbid States In The Mother Have A Very Definite Effect On The Foetus. The Morbid Depression Will Fade Away After The Judicious Administration Of Pulsatilla, Aurum, Or Sepia. Fears Lose Their Terror Under The Action Of Aconitum Napellus, Arsenicum Album, Argentum Nitricum, Ignatia Amara Or One Of The Dindred Drugs. Sleep Returns To The Weary Mother Helped By Aconitum Napellus, Belladonna, Coffea Cruda, Nux Vomica, Etc., And The Fright Loses Its Evil Effect Under The Sedative Influence Of Aconitum Napellus, Ignatia Amara, Opium, Phosphorus, Pulsatilla Nigricans, Etc. The Mother's Nervous System Has Not Been Dulled, Not Has The Unborn Infant Been Poisoned By Any Of These Drugs. The Next Factor Seriously Affecting The Well-being Of The Child Is Its Birth. Here There Are Great Possibilities Of Injury; Unavoidable Injury At The Hands Of The Most Skilful Attendant, Due To The Necessity For Manipulation Of Instruments, Or Injury Due To Prolonged And Difficult Labour, Without Any Outside Interference. These Injuries May Be To Limbs Or, Much More Serious, May Involve Intracranial Haemorrhages And Consequent Brain Damage. There Are Two Problems To Be Considered Here: How To Avoid The Risk, If Possible; And What Can Be Done For The Infant Who Is Suffering From The Effects Of A Difficult Labour. It Is An Experience Common To Homeopathic Doctors Everywhere, Who Are Conducting A General Practice, That Their Patients Do Not Suffer From Difficult Labour. That Does Not Prove Anything, But It Is A Fortunate Fact For The Patients. There Are Two Factors Which Have A Bearing On This Happy Experience: A Pregnant Woman Who Is Treated Throughout Her Pregnancy With Homoeopathic Medicine Will Approach Her Confinement Freed From The Physical And Mental Ailments Which So Often Are Factors In The Production Of An Unsatisfactory Confinement; And, There Is A Drug, Caulephyllum, Which Has The Power Of Regulating The Processes Of Labour, A Fact Which Was Known And Used By Homoeopaths Many Years Ago, And Is Equally True To-day.