CHANGING PATTERN OF SEX BEHAVIOUR & ATTITUDE TOWARDS SEX IN SOCIETY
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Now a days,Sex is no more a phenomena of celebration in a closed room of four walls,people of all age enjoys it in own way but yet a bit conservative way in our country than west (as Exhibitionism or pump and show of sexual activity in public place like park,gardens ,auditorium,meeting halls,bus,train,railway airport etc and younger and female still hesitate to talk before parents an elders what to talk of doing any sexual activity.But Attitude of Sex has completely changed in youth,most teenagers have boy or girl friend,chating on mobile,social
Sites,talking,sending sms/mms iscommonly seen ,even before adult hood they have experience of sexual intercourse and after adulthood many youth both male and female enjoy toghetherness with sexuality and beside marriage leading to a family life a common understanding of living relation with intercourse is also seen .Widows are mostly remarried and even sex is performed and most wanted after 70 yrs as expectancy of life has increased markedly in both male and femalethan previous almost hidden sex infamily after 40-50 yrs when children are adult and married.
Gays and lesbians as wellas sex with trans geneder is not looked down upon as in past people listen with their association ‘s demand of recognition of society more silently and some even advocates for these.
Study conducted recently have shown that most boys and girls of school even know some thing about sex,by collge most of them are well acquainted with effects and side effects of sex,abnormal sex and sex without condom or un safe sex,even theyknow methods of contraception and even medical pills post pregnancy are known to them due to open advertisement of these over media in newspaper,social sites and TV.Some also know about many sexually transmitted diseases and its effect and methods to prevent them.
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SOME SHOCKING RESULT OF SEX STUDY RECENTLY CONDUCTED ARE:----
• India Today Sex Survey 2012: Women are no more shy and submissive. With changing times, to watch sex seens,videos of normal and abnormal sex in different positions and ways i.e., pornography is mostly seen by youths and even older age people while on mobile or computer net ,this pornography is almost a part of most computer and mobile surfers ,an most click once or twice on these sites in day or two, pre-teen sex is no more a taboo or is much done as they mostly want to explore what it is really a SEX is so much served now adays in different magazines even photo on third page of different national and big news aper on different advertisement on tv,radio and net easily accessible on mobile and computer.
• India Today Sex Survey 2012: sex is no more expected as work of male and female a passive partner,never speaking any thing aginst male parner,woman desparately seek satisfaction and complain to husband for getting it corrected by doctor or talk to friend and even complain to parents needing its immediate correction ,it is even seen in women from small town and thes woman have broken their popular coy image
• India Today Sex Survey 2012: I want to do 'frandship' with you is still the norm in small town India, the men don't date they just ogle and even after friendship not only male and female doesnot hesistate to make sexual relation even in small town whereas it is never seen with surprise in cities and educated class.
WOMEN ARE MORE CONCERNED TO PURCHASE CONDOM FOR THEIR MALE PARTNER TO PROTECT THMESELVES FROM PREGNANCY AND SEXUAL TRANSMITTED DISEASE LIKE HIV/AIDS,SYPHILLIS,GONORRHOEA etc.,Men seem ready to get laid at any time of the day, but when it comes to buying condoms they are surprisingly shy - even in a city like Delhi.Now, more and more women are taking upon themselves to equip their partners with necessary protection for safe sex.
In a recent survey, Jamia Hamdard University's Department of Management has found that the use and awareness of condoms is still low in males in the Capital which is forcing women to take the lead. The survey included more than 2,000 women, with many of them revealing that their partners were yet to overcome hesitation to buy condoms.
Too shy to ask

"Women are coming forward to buy con-doms because their partners don't want to buy them. In our study, we found that 62 per cent of couples were using condoms, while 54 per cent of women had had a sexual relationship at least once in their lifetime where their partner did not use condoms because of shyness to buy them," said Dr. N. Ravichandran, head, Department of Management, Jamia Hamdard.
Smita Rajan, a housewife, says she often buys con-doms for her husband.
"It's been just eight months for our marriage. My husband works in a call centre, and he wants to make love to me at odd hours, just like his job. He says he doesn't get time to buy condoms, but the truth is he is shy of buying it... Now I have started buying these from grocery stores. I keep con-doms in the basket and give them along with other items for billing."
AIDS /HIV ;Sheena Shah, a student, learnt the lesson of safe sex the hard way. Shah, staying away from her family in the city, had several boyfriends.Unwilling to use condoms, she contracted HIV/AIDS last year, leading her into depression.
"I personally never wanted to use condoms because they reduced my pleasure. My boyfriends never brought condoms because they felt shy about buying them," she says.
Another housewife doesn't want to get pregnant after bearing two kids, because of the 'irrational' sexual behavior of her husband, a marketing professional. She now orders condoms from the nearby chemist shop along with other things.
Women are increasingly coming forward to safe-guard their sexual health.
While conducting the study, researchers found that in Delhi, 6 per cent women in the age group of 19-22 bought condoms because their partners felt shy, while 10 per cent women in the age group of 26-30 did so. The figure was 22 per cent in the age group of 31-36."While female condoms seem to be proving a flop show, women have started choosing condoms for their partners as per their choice to have different pleasure every time," said Ravichandran.

"Condom use particularly among individuals and high-risk population, should be promoted as one a health product rather than a spacing device as they not only protect pregnancy but prevent many diseases like HIV /AIDS/WHITE DICHARGE,SYPHILLIS,GONORRHOEA,LYMPHOGRENULUM VENERUM,GRANULAM INGUINALE,HERPES SIMPLEX,DUCREY’S ULCER That is why NACO IS DISTRIBUTING FREE CONDOMS TO ALL HIGH RISK GROPUS LIKE MIGRATORYY PEOPLE AS TRUCK DRIVERS,LABOURERS FLYING AND COMMERCIAL SEX WORKERS,HIV POSITIVE PERSONS IN ART CENTRES,DRUG USERS AND MEN TO MEN SEX WORKERS ATTENDING STD CLINIC IN ICTC CNTRES,ART CENTRES AND DROPPING OUT CNTRES AND OTHER SURVEILLNACE CENTRES.
FOR CONDOM SIPLE CONDOM SOLD BY GOVENRN OF INDIA OR HINDUSTAN LATEX/RUBBER COMPANY IS GOOD ONE AS IT IS VERY LESS COSTLY BESIDE IT MANY FLAVOURED SCENTED SHINING AND ARTIFICIALY SILICONE AND OTHER SOFT CONDOMS ARE ALSO AVIALABLE AND ADVERTISED IN TV OR NEWS PAPER.IF CONDOM IS NOT TORN OR BROKEN IT WORKS NICELY AND IT IS EASY TO USE ONLY THING IS THAT WE SHOULD USED TO PRACTICE IT FEMALE PARTNER SHOULD COMPELL TO MALE PARTNER TO USE IT IF HE HESISITATES TO USE IT IN NAME OF LESS SATISFICATION OR NO TIMEOF PATIENCE AFTER AROUSAL AS THESE AR NOT ALL IMPORTANT EXCEPT PSYCHOLOGICALLY FELT ANF ARTICULATED.
(Names have been changed to protect the identity of women)