Sex is a Science:
My head falls down in shame when we hear that
the govt has put on hold the decision to start sex Education in schools...
Lets approach it this
way... Let us think Sex as a Science...
By virtue of being born out
of sex, it does not follow that we know all there is to know about sex. We are
not born experts on love and sex. We have to be educated. We have to understand what’s the attractions in sex, why
there is such a push within us towards it. We have to learn how to use our energy
to go through sex in a natural way and then go beyond it to a natural state of
celibacy.
With a depth of insight and
foresight, I understand today the caliber of humans in sinking lower and lower.
Some people blame it on the deterioration of moral standards, while others
attribute it to kaliyug, etc but this is all non sense...
There is only one thing
different, the quality of sex has fallen, sex has lost its sacredness, sex has
lost its scientific understanding, its simplicity and naturalness.
Sex has degenerated into a
forced thing, a nightmare. Sex has taken almost a violent status, very rarely
its a loving act.. Unless we bring a deeper understanding and a harmony to the
act of sex—which is possible only through education, humanity cannot come into
being.... Until the naturalness of sex becomes accepted wholeheartedly nobody
can love anybody. I want to say to you that sex is godly, The energy of sex is
divine energy, godly energy. That is why this energy creates life. It is
the greatest most mysterious force of all.. I appeal to all the
authorities to drop this antagonism
towards sex. If you ever want love to shower in your life, renounce this
conflict with sex, Accept sex blissfully, acknowledge its sacredness...
There is an enormous rise in incidences of sex abuse,
child abuse, rapes, transgender, gays & lesbians I don’t blame those who do this crime.. but
feel the plight of the victims..
This is all because of our
age old belief system, that sex is a
sin, sex is bad, sex should not be talked about, sex is illegal, .. etc etc.
Also sex should be abstained before marriage.. its
like asking adolescent guy that he/she shouldn’t drive a car before marriage,
even if has a valid license and can drive very well.
Why should you blame the
mirror for what it reflects ?
What is the fault of the
snake if we are scared of it. What is the fault of heights if we are scared of
it. Our biggest culprit today is our belief system.. which is several thousand
years old.. Our humanity is a byproduct of this culture.. and yet the human is
blamed for being wrong, and not the culture. I do not say our culture is not
great, infact its one of the richest,
but as other things have evolved over several thousand years love, attitudes
and relationships haven’t evolved as they
should... But if something hasn’t
evolved over the past ten thousand
years how can one expect that to change
now.. And today’s human being is a proof for this...Its amazing to see more
love and healthy relationships amongst birds, insects and trees who do not have any religion or
culture..
Love is within every human
being, hidden inside, it has not to be searched
from somewhere, it is there. It is the very need and longing of life
within every soul on this earth, it is
the very decor of life within every one.. Its like a sculptor who works with a
rock and with a chisel and hammer makes a wonderful statue.. Actually speaking
the statue is actually hidden inside, somehow the useless mass over it was
brilliantly separated.. So the question is not how to produce love and harmony
in all but how to uncover it in all ?
This is only possible with
proper sex education.....
Lastly let me tall you that
sex is a religious experience, a spiritual experience.. Let us use it and not
abuse it, not detest it, not give a degrading grin, not give an insulting
attitude to it, not suppress or repress
it... Let us not kill sex education by poisoning it because all said and done
even if authorities do not implement sex education sex did not die in the past
and sex will not die.in future. it will become poisoned.. it shall live on, but
poisoned, and we shall say Sexuality is the poisoned sex....
As a Sex therapist, and a Sexologist with
a diplomate from American board and American College of Sexology I am
aware The things which are taught in our medical schools are restricted to
study of reproductive organs, the diseases related to the organs and Sexually transmitted diseases.. nothing
beyond that While working as a clinical
associate at KEM Hospital in the sexual medicine department I wasn’t alarmed at a newly married
neurosurgeon who came with his wife who also works in a MNC to ask me how to
perform sex in a right way? And there
are many more such situations we see
which makes me feel its imperative to make Sexual Science education to all
children who are the future of our nation, who shall rope in seeds of love and
harmony in future generations to come.
A beautiful curriculum on
the guidelines of American Association
of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and American College of
Sexology for all the types of students, school college, women, literate,
illiterate and from over several years of experience in practicing Sex
Therapy,can be formulated and I am willing to impart as much education in
this fascinating and only branch of science
which is life in itself...