What is Sexual Confidence ?

Sexual Confidence is:
Knowing that you are a good sexual partner.
Thinking that you are sexy (regardless of your age or weight)
Being willing to flirt, or touch first.
Freedom from inhibition - you can be yourself in bed.
You are in touch with your desires - you know what you like.
Being able to say “I want you” and knowing he wants you too.
Daring to try something new - a position, sex in the kitchen, being blindfolded etc.
Understanding that a good sexual rapport can take time to develop.
Being unafraid to say no to anything that you don’t want.
Keep a healthy distance between Desires and Relationships.
Not taking your partner’s lack of desire or orgasm as your failure.
Staying calm if your partner loses his erection. (you know it happens sometimes)
Being open to hearing feedback about your technique in order to better please him.
“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.”

Sex is a Science:

My head falls down in shame when we hear that the govt has put on hold the decision to start sex Education in schools...
Lets approach it this way... Let us think Sex as a Science...
By virtue of being born out of sex, it does not follow that we know all there is to know about sex. We are not born experts on love and sex. We have to be educated. We have to understand what’s the attractions in sex, why there is such a push within us towards it. We have to learn how to use our energy to go through sex in a natural way and then go beyond it to a natural state of celibacy.
With a depth of insight and foresight, I understand today the caliber of humans in sinking lower and lower. Some people blame it on the deterioration of moral standards, while others attribute it to kaliyug, etc but this is all non sense...

There is only one thing different, the quality of sex has fallen, sex has lost its sacredness, sex has lost its scientific understanding, its simplicity and naturalness.
Sex has degenerated into a forced thing, a nightmare. Sex has taken almost a violent status, very rarely its a loving act.. Unless we bring a deeper understanding and a harmony to the act of sex—which is possible only through education, humanity cannot come into being.... Until the naturalness of sex becomes accepted wholeheartedly nobody can love anybody. I want to say to you that sex is godly, The energy of sex is divine energy, godly energy. That is why this energy creates life. It is the greatest most mysterious force of all.. I appeal to all the authorities to drop this antagonism towards sex. If you ever want love to shower in your life, renounce this conflict with sex, Accept sex blissfully, acknowledge its sacredness...

There is an enormous rise in incidences of sex abuse, child abuse, rapes, transgender, gays & lesbians I don’t blame those who do this crime.. but feel the plight of the victims..
This is all because of our age old belief system, that sex is a sin, sex is bad, sex should not be talked about, sex is illegal, .. etc etc.
Also sex should be abstained before marriage.. its like asking adolescent guy that he/she shouldn’t drive a car before marriage, even if has a valid license and can drive very well.

Why should you blame the mirror for what it reflects ?
What is the fault of the snake if we are scared of it. What is the fault of heights if we are scared of it. Our biggest culprit today is our belief system.. which is several thousand years old.. Our humanity is a byproduct of this culture.. and yet the human is blamed for being wrong, and not the culture. I do not say our culture is not great, infact its one of the richest, but as other things have evolved over several thousand years love, attitudes and relationships haven’t evolved as they should... But if something hasn’t evolved over the past ten thousand years how can one expect that to change now.. And today’s human being is a proof for this...Its amazing to see more love and healthy relationships amongst birds, insects and trees who do not have any religion or culture..

Love is within every human being, hidden inside, it has not to be searched from somewhere, it is there. It is the very need and longing of life within every soul on this earth, it is the very decor of life within every one.. Its like a sculptor who works with a rock and with a chisel and hammer makes a wonderful statue.. Actually speaking the statue is actually hidden inside, somehow the useless mass over it was brilliantly separated.. So the question is not how to produce love and harmony in all but how to uncover it in all ?

This is only possible with proper sex education.....

Lastly let me tall you that sex is a religious experience, a spiritual experience.. Let us use it and not abuse it, not detest it, not give a degrading grin, not give an insulting attitude to it, not suppress or repress it... Let us not kill sex education by poisoning it because all said and done even if authorities do not implement sex education sex did not die in the past and sex will not die.in future. it will become poisoned.. it shall live on, but poisoned, and we shall say Sexuality is the poisoned sex....

As a Sex therapist, and a Sexologist with a diplomate from American board and American College of Sexology I am aware The things which are taught in our medical schools are restricted to study of reproductive organs, the diseases related to the organs and Sexually transmitted diseases.. nothing beyond that While working as a clinical associate at KEM Hospital in the sexual medicine department I wasn’t alarmed at a newly married neurosurgeon who came with his wife who also works in a MNC to ask me how to perform sex in a right way? And there are many more such situations we see which makes me feel its imperative to make Sexual Science education to all children who are the future of our nation, who shall rope in seeds of love and harmony in future generations to come.

A beautiful curriculum on the guidelines of American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists and American College of Sexology for all the types of students, school college, women, literate, illiterate and from over several years of experience in practicing Sex Therapy,can be formulated and I am willing to impart as much education in this fascinating and only branch of science which is life in itself...